I mean I guess maybe women should say “sorry” less, but I think mainly men should say “sorry” more.
transition doesn’t start with hrt
#and it’s most definitely not the thing your transition should be completely measured on
- Not Pansexuality: "I don't care about gender!! Gender is meaningless!"
- Pansexuality: "I understand that gender can be an important part of someone's identity, but it will have no effect on whether I am attracted to them."
halfway through a conversation with a new lover, she asks
“so, when i introduce you to people, can i call you my girlfriend?”
i’m on cloud nine; minutes later, cut down by another message
not from her, but from my mother. it reads “do you even love me?”
this isn’t like her other messages, this isn’t one i can avoid
as much as it’ll take out of me, this one requires a response
- and she knows it, she’s fully aware.
“no, of course i love you,” i type some feeble response,
never letting on how much i try avoid her and her manipulative,
borderline abusive shit.
february. i get a message from an aunt, living in sydney.
“your mom is struggling with this change, and you need to understand and respect that
pander to her feelings, because if you dont you could cause a split in the family”
because clearly, i’m responsible and at fault, not her
(how dare i ever do something /i/ need to do?)
so. as paralysed as i am to respond, a friend, from singapore
- god bless them - posts a public message
“all i can say is it’s entirely their loss”.
my mother “likes” the post, it flying totally over her head.
two months later, i visit her. in a whole week she never once refers to me as she, her, or daughter.
january. a long, heartfelt, rambling emotional message. coming out.
a simple, short, entirely misguided response:
“i love you, and you’ll always be my son”.